They say you should never judge a book by it’s cover but you can be totally forgiven for doing that with Dating Daisy – it is a stunning cover and the quality of it in real life is just amazing! It feels gorgeous!!
As part of the blog tour for Dating Daisy, I am handing over to the author herself as she shines a spotlight on, well … read on and you’ll find out!
Spotlight on Dating Daisy
At about 2.00 a.m. on 6 April 2012, whilst enduring yet another sleepless night, I found myself writing a diary. I had no idea that three years, 130,000 words, and 425 pages later, I would have written a book! Yes the book is based on my own experiences and it was cathartic to write it. However, like many authors before me, I let my imagination run free to embroider my characters and ensure all the details are fictitious. It is a fiction book.
I like to think of Dating Daisy as a story of positivity and how, after major life events, anyone can change their life around with a positive mental attitude. I found myself aged fifty-two, divorced, and then both my parents died in quick succession. I felt very alone and did not know how to face the future.
Some people like their own company, but this is not me. I knew I needed to find a soul mate and fast. The solution? – Internet Dating.
I was full of trepidation about this. It was thirty years since I had been on any sort of date. My computer skills were not fantastic. I had heard horror stories about Internet dating. Plus, I was embarrassed to put my details on the Internet, including that horrible moment when I had to upload a photo! I didn’t want friends, neighbours, and family to see me there. But the urge to find a mate was so strong, that one day I went ahead and pressed the button. In truth, I did log on to several sites on numerous occasions before I actually made the decision and paid any money.
My Internet name, Daisy, probably originated from a picture called A Breeze of Daisies by Malcolm Thompson, which hung in the hall of my marital home for three decades. It’s a rather romantic picture of some wild daisies waving in the breeze on a sand dune. I have always loved it, and when I knew I was getting divorced, I ran straight home and took the picture to a friend’s house for safe-keeping! It was the only thing I wanted to keep.
As I started the dating process, hesitantly and falteringly, I realised that the experiences I had were overwhelmingly funny, and I felt the urge to write them down. As I wrote, I made myself laugh. I was also working in my day job, as a sexual health doctor. They say write about what you know, so I wrote some sexual health stories, to keep myself and the reader amused, in between dates!
There were highs and lows of the dating process. I enjoyed the attention, the witty email banter, and even getting dressed up for a date. All my dates wanted to see me again, so that was very good for my self esteem. It was amusing and I heard other interesting stories about dates and dating along the way.
On the down side, I hated the disappointments. So often I had been emailing someone for quite a while and we would meet, sometimes after a considerable journey cross country – only to find the minute I set eyes on them that they were not for me. This is often because people lie on the sites, about everything from height, weight, and age. The pictures they post on their profiles were either taken of them twenty years ago, or must be pictures of someone else completely! Sometimes I cried all the way home.
But – human beings are generally resourceful and optimistic. So I tried to think of it more as a game, and accept that these dates were unlikely to come to anything. If they did, it would a bonus. Some people have been on the sites literally for years! It was important to see them as an adventure and nothing more.
In the book, Daisy writes emails, poems, limericks, and a recipe for love. Daisy also can’t resist giving advice about things like Kissing and Anti-Snoring. This is a humorous tale and may just make you laugh out loud!
Daisy’s ex-husband is known as Voldemort in the book. She also has her elderly friends The Amigos, her disorganised, best friend Pinky, her seventeen year old daughter, Imogen and her ninety-seven year old friend, Jeannie, who gives advice on dating from the nursing home. They make an interesting crowd of followers. Oh and Chris Martin – yes – from Coldplay -is in there somewhere too.
While writing the book, I had thought I was in a sink or swim situation, so quite literally I started swimming, and while I was writing and dating, I lost three stone. I felt a lot happier and healthier at the end of the book that I had for many, many years.
I am grateful to Clink Publishing for the pretty, bright pink book cover and design and for creating such an attractive book. If you flip through it, you will see icons, for example a daisy for every date and a moon for Daisy’s conversations with Chris Martin. I think these lend the book a little quirky touch that suits it.
I hope you will enjoy the experience of reading Dating Daisy.
Does Daisy pull it off? – You’ll have to wait and see!
Wow! How brave to share the good, the bad, and the ugly of your experiences!
Want to know more? Here’s the blurb …
Clink Street Publishing (27 July 2017)
What do you do when you’re a newly divorced fifty-two year old mother, keen for a second chance of romance? Why internet dating of course! Daisy Mae_224 embarks on the internet dating process with trepidation. Having not been on the dating scene for nearly thirty years, and with fairly rudimentary computer skills, she finds herself embroiled in a series of haphazard and hilarious situations. Daisy keeps a diary of her internet dating life and reveals detail by detail, the ups and downs of her midlife dating extravaganza. Soon after starting out, Daisy realises her true mission. With no past experience and no-one/nothing to guide her, she needs to produce – Internet Dating lessons. Read on to find out about PLONKERS, muppets and MAWDs, and a whole host of amusing anecdotes, tips and ideas. Working by day as a sexual health doctor, the story as it unfolds contains accounts of Daisy’s clinical experiences with patients in the sexual health clinic. She also reflects on her past life with Voldemort (the dreadful ex-husband). With advice and encouragement from Imogen, her seventeen year old daughter, her surrogate parents known as the Amigos, with a big house and swanky swimming pool, her friend Pinkie and from Jeannie, her nonagenarian friend from the Nursing Home, Daisy resiliently persists in her quest to find a long term partner. This is a heartfelt story that will ring bells with anyone who has ended a long term relationship and now wants to find somebody new. It is humorously written, full of emails, poems, limericks, and even a recipe! Daisy can’t resist her pages of advice on topics like “Kissing” and “Anti-Snoring.” It is a unique and highly amusing book, which will make you laugh out loud! So read on and see. Will Dating Daisy find her “prairie vole?” Or will the whole process end in disaster?
Be sure to keep up with the rest of the tour! My tanks to the author and the team at Authoright for inviting me to take part.