I am kicking off the blog tour today for a wonderfully uplifting autobiography, written by the inspirational Jo Huey.
Transition is Jo’s own story of how she has come to terms with growing up in the home of her alcoholic father and I am delighted to be sharing the forward with you, but first, here’s the blurb …
An autobiography of Jo’s life from the trauma and unpredictability of living in an alcoholic home, through self-development transformation to the more content, happy and successful business woman she is today.
Jo shares her many insights into alcoholism and the effects on the family. An honest and brutal account of Jo’s experience with her father’s addiction to alcohol, she shares the highs and lows of life with an absent father and busy mother.
After life hit an all-time low in adulthood she decided to turn her life around and start a journey of self-discovery. Jo transformed herself through therapy, self-help books, groups, events and more which she shares in the book.
If you have experienced the challenges of living with someone’s drinking, then you’ll relate to Jo’s experience and feel the connection with her story.
If you are interested in an inspirational and motivational story, then you won’t be disappointed. Within the book, Jo shares several techniques you’ll be able to learn and use in your life if you really want the change you seek.
Jo Huey is an inspirational & motivational speaker, coach and author.
Jo gets up every morning wanting to help those with experiences like hers, those affected by someone’s drinking. She connects the dots to form a new picture using practical tools & techniques with the aim that they would genuinely feel better about themselves and live a calmer and chaos free life.
I first became aware of Jo Huey when she contacted me to ask if she could use some data that I had published on a webpage. From there we started communicating about projects that we were involved in. I had the pleasure of interviewing her for our website for families of problem drinkers, Bottled Up (www.bottled-up.com). She then interviewed me for her website. I have been really impressed by her dedication to helping people and her energy in getting her business started and writing this book. So I was honoured when she asked me to write the foreword for her book.
We all like a good ‘survivor’ story, stories about people who have faced incredible difficulties and are still here to tell us about them. These stories are inspirational; they show us the resilience of the human spirit, show us a glimpse of what we are capable of, while making us grateful that we don’t have to endure those conditions ourselves.
Usually the stories we hear about are beyond our own experience, expeditions to the north or south poles, climbing Everest, single handed sailing round the world. We can picture ourselves in those expeditions, battling against the elements without ever leaving the comfort of our armchairs. It is too easy to believe that survivors are exceptional people who have overcome exceptional circumstances. Yet we are surrounded by survivors: people who have been subjected to prolonged and terrible ordeals. But their voices and stories are rarely heard.
Jo Huey is one of those survivors and this book is her story. It is a raw and, at times, harrowing account of growing up in an alcoholic household. Jo, and so many children of alcoholics, never knew the security of knowing that she was coming home from school to a safe environment. In her household, she might open the door to find the ‘nice’ dad who was kind, playful and fun or the angry, violent dad who would physically abuse her.
Jo details the unpredictability of her home situation and the effect that it had on her life as a child and later as an adult. She highlights two issues that were directly attributable to her chaotic upbringing. The first was that having been starved of consistent affection, she craved it wherever she could find it.
In dissecting her later relationships, she shows how her craving for affection led her into promiscuity, in the mistaken belief that sex was love. Also, because in her childhood love and affection seemed to have been given so arbitrarily, she was hugely insecure about being lovable. This led her to try to fit into what she believed other people wanted her to be. In trying to be loved, she lost the ability to be who she was and lost the love of herself. But this a book about a survivor and Jo survives; indeed she much more than survives.
This is a book that’s squeezed out of painful experience. It’s a raw, visceral and highly personal book and is so much more powerful for being that. If you are looking for a literary masterpiece, then find another because this is not it.
But if you are looking for a book that might change your life then look no further, this is it!
Few of us can identify with the hardships faced trekking across the Arctic Tundra. Most of us can identify with the struggle to be authentic, the quest for love. Many of you will identify with Jo’s experiences of her childhood and her adulthood, although you may not have the insight to realise the connections between childhood situations and adult behaviours. This book helps make those connections explicit.
One of the strengths of this book is the “Insider Tips”. Jo relates an incident or a pattern of behaviour and then gives an insider tip which explains the link between the incident and behaviours and some aspect of alcoholism. Using this device, Jo acts as a guide through the mysteries of the alcoholic family.
In the second part of the book Jo leads us through her relationships and in her brutally honest fashion she lays herself bare about failed relationships, promiscuity and even rape. What emerges from this journey is that she is aware that all is not well, as are so many others, but what puts Jo alongside those exceptional people who conquered the arctic is that she is not an armchair explorer. She is willing to seek out and try anything that might help her change, that might help her become a better, more rounded person.
In this book she shows us that she is not afraid to confront what most of us find the scariest creature on the planet – our own self-image. She explores various change techniques: AlAnon, NLP, retreats, meditation – in this ongoing voyage of self-discovery. There is much to recommend this book but perhaps the most important message of the book is that you can change. Instead of sitting, blaming fate for not giving her a great childhood, or blaming her alcoholic father for disrupting the formative years of her life, she did something about it. She could not change her early life but she took responsibility for her adulthood and how she behaves today. Not for her the bitterness or hate that would have been so easy and even understandable. Just look at the dedication of the book: This book is dedicated to my dad. For all his faults I did love him. This is not just surviving, this is transition.
Jo now has a business making people aware of the problems that alcohol can bring and helping people to recover as she has. If you are looking for a guide for the ultimate adventure then Jo Huey is that guide.
Dr John McMahon.
Be sure to follow the rest of the tour for some wonderful reviews and guest posts from the author herself.
About Jo Huey …
Jo is an inspirational speaker, coach and author with over 32 years of combined experience. She uses her life experience and coping techniques she has learnt to help others like her overcome mental health problems, specifically those who have been affected by someone’s drinking. She helps those who have experienced problems in the past or experiencing problems now to focus on healing and re build the much needed self-esteem, confidence and assurance they need and deserve.
After life hit an all-time low she decided to seek help though therapy and subsequently took a journey of self-discovery. Jo transformed herself through self-help books, groups, events and more which she shares in the book.
Within the book Jo shares several techniques which you will be able to use in your life if you really want to change your seek.
She uses practical tools and techniques with the aim that they would genuinely feel better about themselves and live a calmer and chaos free life.